Cheating Wife Vs Faithful Husband ; Why Do Men Find It Difficult To Forgive A Cheating Spouse ( SEE PHOTOS)

 

This case came up over the weekend, Share your thought

A man suspected his wife of having an affair 6 months after a took a new job in Abuja. Note that during this period he frequent Lagos every month to visit his family.

They are a very strong christian family, very participatory and regular in the things of God.

By the 6th month he got to know that his wife has been spending too much time with her colleague to the extent that this colleague sometimes goes to pick and drop his children from school. He reports to the house early in the morning, madams hands over the car key to him and they will all leave the house like a family, they drop off the children at the school and heads to work.

This continued until one day, the whole shit came down! but before this happened he began to get sick unnecessarily and according to him, he kept having this urge to have a conversation with his love to know if they were still on the same page. So he traveled and did have this conversation with her, but something weird happened and he immediately knew that something was not normal.

Fast forward to when he found out and confronted her, according to him, she is still lying till date but ofcourse she relocated to Abuja immediately to save their marriage but Oga is so heartbroken to even look at her.

One of the things I told oga is that Its possible nothing happened between his wife and her young colleague. He might just be her errand boy but oga said ; 'so why is she lying about it'? why didn't she tell him ab initio?

Then I asked oga , why is he finding it difficult to forgive her and accept her back even as a minister of God. He said he is still believing God for that level of grace, however, he claimed to have forgiven but accepting her back is still a big challenge for him. Thinking about how far he was committed to her from her first year in the university, he has never been with any other woman, all his sacrifice etc... Dude is still very heartbroken

Then I reminded Oga that men do all sorts and yet women easily forgive and stay, so why do men find it very difficult to forgive when the table is turned? Why so much high expectation on the women not to make mistake?

He said Men are naturally very selfish and stupid but they are still men! However, his case is different.

In this case all avenues have been explored, but the finally decision lies on this man. But again, Why do men find it difficult to forgive a cheating spouse ?