Why Most Fathers Are Neglected At Old Age.( You Reap What You Sowed?)

WHAT HAPPENS WHEN POWER CHANGES HANDS IN THE FAMILY*

THIS IS WHY MOST FATHERS ARE NEGLECTED AT OLD AGE.

-ITS A MUST READ FOR ALL FATHERS! (and mothers too!)

Take ur time and read through.

1. In the lifetime of most Nigerian family settings, there are 3 Dispensations of Power.

2. The 1st is the first 25 years in the life of the family  (father, mother, children) where power indisputably rest with the Father.

3. The 2nd is after the kids have grown & started working when the power shifts to the Mother.

4. The 3rd is when the kids move out of the family house or start their own families when the power moves to the Children.

6. We'll start from the 1st Dispensation. Total dominance of the father. He is the Lion of the Tribe of his House. The boss.

7. During this dispensation, the Father rules with an iron fist. He barks orders & determines what does or does not happen.

8. The Father often melts out corporal punishment to the recalcitrant Children. They grow to fear him more than they love him.

10. The Father is the provider for the Family & everyone is aware of that fact with all attendant consequences.

11. Then the 2nd Dispensation sets in. The Children have finished school and have started working. Power shifts to the Mother.

12. When the Children start earning their own money, for some reason, it's their mothers they decide to look after. They are closer to her.

13. While the Father was in charge, he was busy with the business of providing. He didn't have much time to be a friend to the Children.

14. They spent more time with their mum and invariably grew closer to her. They also see their mum as co-victims of the father's tyranny.

15. The Mother takes centre stage at this point. She is the first to know what's happening with the children & she has advantage.

16. Should any of the Daughters give birth, she is the one that goes for babysitting and the Children spoil her with gifts.

17. At this stage, the Father is wishing for some bond with the children like they have with their Mother but that boat has sailed past.

18. Because the Mother doesn't rely much on the Father for her needs at this stage, she is less likely to tolerate his Lordship & Friction.

19. Then the 3rd and last dispensation. Power has shifted to the Children. They are self  sufficient, live on their own & have own families.

20. More often than not, whenever there is a quarrel between Father & Mother, the Children side their Mother. Years of joints victim hood at play

21. Children have been known to come to the house to warn their Father not to 'disturb' their Mother. Next thing, there will be extended visitations.

22. Woe betide the Father if his finances are precarious at this stage. You will be humbled by force because the gang-up is real.

23. This causes most men to fall ill & develop different complications. By the time the forces are arrayed against you, you will think well.

24. Stroke, Hypertension, high blood Pressure. The man has a large Family but no Relationship with them in later life. Troubling thought.

25. Moral, Dear Men, while the power lies with you, pls wield it with posterity in mind because It won't be with you forever.

26. With the way you are treating your wife now, how will she treat you when power shifts to her?

27. What relationship do you have with your family? Loving dad or despotic, tyrannical provider?

28. Remember, the Children always side with their Mother who carried them for 9 months & nurtured them to adulthood. Aim to do enough to at least get a fair hearing in future moments of family strife

30. Invest wisely for the future so that you won't have to beg to be taken care of if despite your best efforts, you find yourself alone.

ADVISE TO CHILDREN:- IT IS NOT GOOD TO ABANDON YOUR FATHER WHO DENIED HIMSELF TO GET YOU PREPARED FOR LIFE & WHO SACRIFICIALLY SOWED TO MAKE YOU WHO YOU ARE TODAY. HONOR YOUR  PARENTS AND TAKE GOOD CARE OF THEM IN THEIR OLD AGE. THAT IS HOW YOU TOO WILL SOW INTO YOUR FUTURE. DON'T LET NEGLECTING YOUR FATHER (PARENTS ) BE A CURSE ON YOU INTO YOUR FUTURE.

ADVISE TO MOTHERS :- DON'T INCITE YOUR CHILDREN AGAINST THEIR FATHER

*Parenthood is not easy despite its joys. There is no manual on how it works. May God help us to make the best of a really tough job. 

Hope u learnt something FATHERS?

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I once had this conversation with someone that some women are very patient. They know you can't call the shots forever, therefore, it's only wise to be nice to your spouse because only time will tell what the future holds.